Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. It is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. But everything exposed by the light becomes visible — and everything that is illuminated becomes a light.Ephesians 5:11-13
Three years ago I was pretty sick with an autoimmune disease. I spent countless days in bed, and even more in and out of doctors offices. I was facing one of the toughest things I’ve ever gone through yet you would have had no idea unless you were family.
Why? Because via social media my life looked as put together as ever.
I might have been in a hospital undergoing a ton of tests but I what I posted was an aesthetic picture of the view from the hospital window.
I might have been in bed for 4 days but what I posted was a cute picture of a smoothie on top of my white comforter.
I might have been asleep for 99% of the Fourth of July, but I still posted a photo from my lake house from the previous summer.
Social media can be amazing. It can connect us with family and friends all across the world, but it can also be so so so detrimental to our mental health and to our relationships. When I was sick, most people had no idea because all they saw were the picture-perfect photos I posted.
And at the same time, I would be in bed, scrolling through Instagram and seeing everyone else “perfect lives.” It created a lot of doubt in my mind. Why did Jesus allow me to get sick when my friends are all out having fun? Why can’t I just get it together and start living my life again?
Yet, I kept going, posting a false life of “perfection” in order to keep my social media fun. It’s kind of funny how social media can create this false wall of perfection. It creates a false perception of yourself, and honestly most of the time it is nothing like the real you.
Social media portrays this idea that you have it all together when in reality most of us don’t.
There is a danger in perfection. Because, the truth is, there is no such thing as perfection. We are all human, we are all fallen, we are all sinful.
The only picture of true perfection was Jesus, and he died over 2,000 years ago.
None of us live perfect lives! We all have issues, we all have days spent in bed and not out with friends, and we also have days when we just feel terrible. Remind yourself that sometimes it’s important, to be honest.
I’m not saying you should upload selfies of yourself crying, but we shouldn’t try to make ourselves look perfect when we are not feeling that way. God made each and every one of us unique but because of the fall, we are also broken and flawed.
Yet he still loves us, so we should learn to love ourselves the way we are as well. Remember this when you fall into a trap of comparing yourself to those on social media or you yourself fall into a trap of creating a false picture around your own life.
If social media constantly causes you to feel inadequate, worthless, envious, or unhappy then maybe it’s time you take a break. This week try to use social media in a healthy way. Maybe take time to unplug from your phone, and engage with who you are with.