The LORD your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing.” Zephaniah 3:17
This week we are going to be talking about comparison – one of the largest and overwhelmingly exasperating problems that we struggle with. It’s a problem that people of all ages face, but something I think affects girls especially. Welcome to Day 3.
Have you ever thought about what it looks like to live fully content and at peace with who you are?
I have this one friend, who I absolutely treasure. She’s an encouragement to me every day and seems to always have a smile on her face, regardless of the situation. I remember asking her one time, “how do you stay so happy” and she replied, “I just choose it.”
I kinda laughed and was like “what do you mean?”
She replied, “I choose to be happy every morning, and in every moment throughout the day.”
After doing life with this girl for so long, I have come to realize there is also another huge piece to it.
She never uses comparison to weigh her actions, nor does she let it affect her emotions.
She doesn’t fill with jealousy when one of her friends gets engaged, she cheers them on. She doesn’t envy her friend who got a better job than her, she cheers her on. She doesn’t ever see a friend as a threat for being better than her at something, she continues to cheer them on.
This friend is one of the sweetest, smartest, and loving friends that I have. She deserves to get the best husband, best job, and get the most recognition, but yet, she never asks or desires it.
She lives a life focused on one thing, and that is Jesus.
She is able to cheer on her friends when they succeed because she knows she is seen individually by God.
She is able to stay content and happy single because she knows the one who loves her most has a plan.
She is the greatest cheerleader to her friends because she knows and loves the greatest cheerleader we could ever have.
Jealousy and comparison are rampant today, especially amongst girls. Maybe it’s because of a lack of self-worth, or a lack of belonging.
How do we combat these feelings of insecurity that root from comparison?
By speaking truth into our own hearts! We can do this by reading the Bible, praying, and ultimately getting to know God better.
The more you study scripture, the more you will realize how each and every one of you was created to “do life” differently.
We will get married at different times, have different body types, get different jobs, travel to different places because God cared enough about each of us to make us all so different.
How much of your time is spent trying to be someone Christ didn’t create you to be?
Next time you are finding yourself jealous when a friend is telling of good news, remind yourself of Romans 12:10.
“Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.”
Force yourself to cheer them on, even if you don’t feel like it, and keep reminding yourself of the individual gifts God has given each of you! What might seem like a silly exercise, will eventually turn into a habit, and then into just a way of life.
Thoughts For The Day:
Is there a particular person in your life that you find hard to cheer on?
Why do you think that is?
Make a list of ways you can cheer them on, even if it’s so small as to say “congratulations.”