Here is the cliche reminder for all the single ladies out there, putting their hands up, but are unsure if it’s okay to do so.
Once you hit your twenties, especially if you’re a Christian, you’re bombarded with updates from peers and classmates sharing their good news: We’re engaged! I’m pregnant! We’re dating!
Even if you know in your gut that these life milestones aren’t what you’re striving for right now, it still feels like a nagging inkling in your horizon.
Should I be doing that?
Shouldn’t I want that, too?
And am I inadequate or “not doing things right” if I’m not interested in those things? For me, I’m questioning if I’ll even have children in the future. I would much rather travel than settle down. If I get married, it’s to have a travel companion. I am a hopelessly, perpetually single, but I’m not mad about it.
At least until I notice what other people my age are doing. I know the last thing I want to do right now is get married or have babies, but I’m slightly envious of the certainty and stability others seem to have. God’s timing was clear for them, and they acted accordingly.
I want to have that reassurance or push toward what’s meant for me. I haven’t had anything happen like that. It makes me frustrated and anxious. It leaves me questioning everything.
Here’s where the beauty and awesome majesty of God comes in. His timing is always perfect. He knows exactly when things will happen to you. He’s the orchestrator of our lives, and He ensures each one is a
masterpiece in its own unique way.
To say that you’re timing is off implies that God’s timing is off, and that isn’t true.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 reminds us, “For everything, there is a season and a time for every matter under heaven.”
What is meant for us will come right when it needs to. It’s not based on others’ timing for their lives.
Maybe some things will never happen for you. Some things might happen differently, or be easier or harder for you to accomplish. Some things might arrive tomorrow, while other things will take decades to spark.
Proverbs 3:5 reminds us to, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. Our minds might doubt our priorities and question our path, but God has our best interests in mind. He acts deliberately to teach us, invigorate us, and encourage us.
When we fully trust in Him, we need not compare our timing or purposes with others’. I will inevitably still find myself doubting and questioning where life will take me. Thanks to social media, I will always still see what others are doing. Regardless, God’s timing is perfect.
If something is meant to happen, it will. If I’m meant to wait, I’ll wait. I’m humbled by His power, His meticulous detail.
I will lean on Him when my own understanding turns to comparison and judgment.
I will trust Him with every ounce of my being.
I will allow Him to work in my life and guide me where I can best serve