Are you currently dating someone or thinking about dating someone? Are you in a season of singleness and are purposely not dating? Are you married?
The Biblical depiction of what a Godly man looks like applies to every girl, regardless of your current relationship status.
We are told over and over again as girls to go after the Proverbs 31 image. To be calm, to be wise, to be hospitable – which we all should strive for – but we need to talk more about what a Godly man looks like.
God did not inspire a Proverbs 32 passage on what a man should look like, but that’s because he did throughout the whole Bible! The Bible is packed full of verses that help us discern what a Godly man looks like.
We broke it down into four categories for you: what his relationship should look like with God, his wife, his children, the world, and himself.
Warning now: not a single man can live up to everything God instructs him on. Even if he’s awesome, he is still human, so he still falls short – like every single one of us! But look for a man who strives to meet all of these points, and when he falls short, get’s back up and starts trying again.
His Relationship With God:
He steps up when God calls him to, taking action and being courageous. “When David heard of it, he sent Joab and all the army, the mighty men…”Be strong, and let us show ourselves courageous for the sake of our people and for the cities of our God; and may the LORD do what is good in His sight.” 2 Samuel 10:7,12
He walks humbly with God, knowing who loved him first. “He has shown you, O mortal, what is good.And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercyand to walk humbly with your God.” Micah 6:8
He lives a life for God, quiet and peaceful in spirit. “For kings and all those in authority, that we may live peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness and holiness.” 1 Timothy 2:2
He does not gossip but focuses on growing in his own life, so others can see Jesus through him. “And to make it your ambition to lead a quiet life: You should mind your own business and work with your hands, just as we told you,so that your daily life may win the respect of outsiders and so that you will not be dependent on anybody.” 1 Thessalonians 4:11-12
He knows the Bible better than any other book. He knows that it is the foundation of all things, and keeps him prosperous because of WHO he puts his faith in. “Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.” Joshua 1:8
He is strong and courageous, neither afraid or discouraged because of his faith in God. “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9
He knows the Word, so when asked about his beliefs he can defend and teach. “But sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you, yet with gentleness and reverence.” 1 Peter 3:15
His Relationship With His Wife:
He loves his wife like Christ loves the church, unconditionally and filled with forgiveness and patience. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. Ephesians 5:25-27
He treats her like he treats his own self. “So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.” Ephesians 5:28
He cares for and provides for her, just like God does for all. “For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.” Ephesians 5:29
He treats her with the utmost respect, caring for her, and taking delight in her. “Husbands, in the same way, be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.” 1 Peter 3:7
He is sympathetic, compassionate, and humble. He does not react to conflict with mean insults, but understanding. “Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble.Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.” 1 Peter 3:8-9
He does not attack with mean words, insults, or bring up past hurt. For, ‘Whoever would love lifeand see good days must keep their tongue from eviland their lips from deceitful speech.” 1 Peter 3:10
His Relationship With His Kids:
He leads. “A deacon must be faithful to his wife and must manage his children and his household well.” 1 Timothy 3:12
He brings his children up in to obey and fear the Lord. “Slaves, obey your earthly masters with respect and fear, and with sincerity of heart, just as you would obey Christ.” Ephesians 6:5
He lives above explosive anger, teaching his children how to live self-controlled. “Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach,” 1 Timothy 3:2
He is respected. “In the same way, deacons are to be worthy of respect, sincere, not indulging in much wine, and not pursuing dishonest gain.” 1 Timothy 3:8
He lives a productive life, providing for his family. “Our people must learn to devote themselves to doing what is good, in order to provide for urgent needs and not live unproductive lives.” Titus 3:14
He teaches generosity but gives all glory to God. “You will be enriched in every way so that you can be generous on every occasion, and through your generosity will result in thanksgiving to God.” 2 Corinthians 9:11
He teaches the importance of giving cheerfully. “Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.” 2 Corinthians 9:7
His Relationship With The World:
He has an upright reputation. “He must also have a good reputation with outsiders so that he will not fall into disgrace and into the devil’s trap.” 1 Timothy 3:7
He is temperate and self-controlled, not giving over to the temptations of the world. “For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come.” 1 Timothy 4:8
He rebukes what is wrong, and protects what is right, standing up for his beliefs. “Better is open rebuke than love that is concealed. Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but deceitful are the kisses of an enemy.” Proverbs 27:5-6
He defends the less fortunate with both his words and actions. “Open your mouth for the mute, for the rights of all the unfortunate. Open your mouth, judge righteously, and defend the rights of the afflicted and needy. – Proverbs 31:8-9
His Relationship With Himself:
He is blameless and upright for he fears God. “Then the Lord said to Satan, “Have you considered my servant Job? There is no one on earth like him; he is blameless and upright, a man who fears God and shuns evil.” Job 1:8
He stands tall against strife and insults knowing where he finds his worth. “Let the righteous smite me in kindness and reprove me; it is oil upon the head; do not let my head refuse it, for still my prayer is against their wicked deeds.” Psalm 141:5
He is humble but thinks highly of himself because he knows God values him. “In the same way, you who are younger, submit yourselves to your elders. All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because, ‘God opposes the proudbut shows favor to the humble.’Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:5-7